Safety and help

Resources

Help from outside Orby, free and open to everyone. None of these services is connected to Orby or endorses it.

In an emergency or a crisis

• In danger: 911 in Canada and the United States; 123 in Colombia. Elsewhere, your local emergency number.
• Thinking about suicide, or in crisis: call or text 988 in Canada or the United States, any time (988.ca, 988lifeline.org; in the US, text and chat in Spanish too).
• Women facing violence in Colombia: Línea 155, a free national line for guidance. In danger, call 123.

If someone shares your intimate images

• Taken when you were 18 or older: StopNCII.org makes a fingerprint of the image on your own device (the image never leaves it), and the big platforms use it to find and remove copies. Free.
• Taken when you were under 18: Take It Down (NCMEC) works the same way, and in Canada NeedHelpNow.ca (the Canadian Centre for Child Protection) helps step by step.
• On Orby: report it in the app or write to safety@joinorby.com. We remove it, and the copies we can find, within 48 hours.

Sexual health

• Toronto: Toronto Public Health’s sexual health clinics are free and confidential, and you don’t need a health card.
• Colombia: ask your EPS.
• Elsewhere, your local health service can point you to a clinic. More in our guide: Safer sex in open relationships.

Finding a therapist who gets it

Many therapists support non-monogamy, but not all. Before booking, it’s fine to ask:

• “Have you worked with people in open or polyamorous relationships?”
• “Would you see non-monogamy as the problem, or help us with what we came for?”
• “Do you see couples, or more than two people together?”

Search directories with words like “polyamory”, “non-monogamy” or “ENM”, and check that the therapist is licensed where you live.

Good reads

• The Ethical Slut (Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy): a classic first read.
• Opening Up (Tristan Taormino): many ways to shape an open relationship.
• Polysecure (Jessica Fern): attachment and security with more than one partner.

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Last checked: November 1, 2026. Something out of date? Tell us at safety@joinorby.com.