Orby guides

Explore at your own pace.

Plain guides to ethical non-monogamy, for people just starting and people who’ve been at it for years. No judgement, consent always.

ENM, polyamory and open relationshipsWhat ethical non-monogamy (ENM) means, how polyamory, open relationships, swinging and relationship anarchy differ, and the words you'll hear: metamour, compersion, kitchen table.
How to open a relationshipHow couples open a relationship with care: why you want it, agreements that work, starting small, checking in, and changing the plan when you need to.
Inviting a thirdHow a couple can invite a third person with respect: talking first, agreeing on limits, treating the third as a person rather than an accessory, and caring for each other after.
Talking about fantasiesA calm, consent-first way to share fantasies with a partner: when to bring it up, yes / maybe / no lists, fantasies that stay fantasies, and checking in after.
Jealousy and compersionJealousy is normal in open and poly relationships. What it’s telling you, what helps in the moment, and how compersion, feeling glad for a partner’s joy, can grow.
Swinging for beginnersNew to swinging? How couples agree on limits first, the etiquette everyone expects, sexual health, choosing a first event, and checking in after.
Polyamory in TorontoHow to find Toronto's polyamorous and ethically non-monogamous community: groups, workshops, books, your first meetup, and meeting verified people.